Be responsible for creating the experiences in your life

Taking responsibility for creating the experiences in your life may be far out if you are not introspective or self-reflective. Some people struggle with this, some people don't know where to start and some people don’t even want to go there. If you want to take control of your emotions and past traumas, then I invite you to continue reading.

PTSD develops after someone has experienced or witnessed a traumatic event, this may include situations like war, terrorist attacks, war, accidents or natural disasters, but it can also happen as a result of all forms of abusive relationships. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety, and uncontrollable thoughts about the event(s).

There is help out there for everyone willing to step into this possibility and embrace change. With the right professional help, you can start to see your life from a different perspective, you may begin to see new possibilities for you & your life. Many alternative therapies can be successful; however, if you feel you have suffered from deep trauma and think you may have PTSD I would encourage you to first look at practitioners who are licensed and accredited and hold liability insurance cover. If you are unsure how to find them, take a look at some of the UK's professional bodies:

The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society: A not-for-profit organization that ensures its registrants are safe, competent, and ethical
British Psychological Society (BPS): Sets high standards for professional education and knowledge in all areas of psychology
British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC): Represents the profession of psychoanalytic and psychodynamic psychotherapy
Counselling and Psychotherapy in Scotland (COSCA): Sets standards and accredits counselling courses and training programs
The National Hypnotherapy Society: Promotes professional hypnotherapy expertise through training, accreditation, and continued professional development
Royal College of Psychiatrists: Represents over 15,000 psychiatrists
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP): Sets standards for therapeutic practice and provides information for therapists, clients, and the general public

Take responsibility for what path you choose, make choices with proper research and commit to the process. It may be challenging and it may be confronting, so be sure you are ready to go on this journey. Be mindful that our sneaky minds don't try to trick us into a victim pattern. Getting out of this way of thinking is part of reframing our mindsets.

One key question that I ask my clients or students is:

“Do you want to make changes, and are you willing to take action?”

If the answer is YES, then you are on your way.

Perspective is the way we see things when we look at them from a certain distance and it allows us to appreciate their true value. ~ Rafael E. Pino

I have learnt that with the right tools that resonate with you then you will learn why your life is the way it is and begin to re-align your life. If you are NOT willing to take action in your life then no change will happen and repeated events will keep on presenting themselves to you to validate your victimhood.

I chose to be a survivor rather than a sufferer as I chose not to stay a victim of what life had thrown at me, well that was what I BELIEVED at the time. My constant repeating negative thoughts when I was in victim mode was “Why me ? “, “What have I done to deserve this ?”, “I am a good person !” , “ I don’t deserve this suffering! “.

These days I look at these questions from a different perspective. “why not me !” , “What lesson do I need to learn here !”, “I do have faults and imperfections”, “suffering is a choice”….This mindset is life-changing.

Can you imagine if everyone were able to look at the beliefs that they operate their lives through from a different perspective, how different would the world be?

If you want to receive effective treatment tailored to your needs, please seek professional help and remember that trauma counselling is a journey that takes time, patience, and commitment. The path to recovery involves building resilience, rediscovering self-worth, and regaining control over one’s life. The future is yours to make.